Re: 3 feet is VERY impressive

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I'd find it useful to reply to all the issues you raise:

1. "In 2004, we all can talk about sex...why not?"

That's great! I was born in an era when it was not so! - for instance, starting to masterbate was seen as total filth and perversion, not something ever to admit to - how times have changed, thankfully! I never knew as a young man that it was "normal" in that most guys do it. Naive? No, just a much different era to today.

2. "I like your persistance...but I'm not an expert"

Persistence in all aspects of my health these past 3 years has yielded great benefit - I "feel" so much better! - ok, still ageing like the rest, but I feel so much more youthful and positive. You are an expert, in that I can post openly, and you can give an opinion as a guy that I find real easy to relate to - I just hope that you too can gain something from this thread and the changes I am making etc may also be useful to you in some way.

3. "Since the quantity of ejaculate is less than what you might have had at 20"

In my case, I've always had consistently very thick ejaculate and what I have assumed to be decent volume of say 2-3 teaspoonfuls in my 20's and now in my 40's. I've had a vasectomy, so no sperm content now!

4."I'm here to help you cause sex is so important in pleasing your woman and yourself"

That's cool!

5. "build it up!" either over time or by bringing yourself ALMOST to an orgasm, or both, stopping and starting again when your slightly soft."

What I have decided to do is abstain! Something I have NEVER done in 25 years or been able to do! Every day, on average, I have in that time ejaculated once - one third sex, two thirds hand jobs! - thats, let see, over 10,000 ejaculations!(I cant beleive I just typed that!). What I've learnt from this thread is what I have known but never been able to do - abstain and rebuild my sex energies! I am now into day three of no ejaculations- and my genital region is feeling tingly - not somehting I've felt for years. My cock is feeling some sensitivity too for the first time in years and if I think at all about sex today I've noted pre-cum is being released! Wow! What a transformation is taking place! Basically, 3 days is something I have never got to before indulging! My wife knows about my plans to improve and why I am abstaining. I have set myself a target of a week - god knows how i'll get to that! Have any ideas to help me get throught it other than cold showers! LOL!

6. More foreplay, my son.

We do this! In fact, we often involve no penetration. I am so fortunate in that I introduced my wife 5-6 years ago to giving me oral sex - and she just loves it! (she cums too!) and to cap it all, she swallows too and enjoys the whole experience! Knowing that she enjoys is is totally satisfying for me mentally - knowing I am not simply getting her to do it for my sake (and it was the fear of this not being so that meant the subject was avoided for so many years - what a pity! anyway, now our sex lives are really opening up! She doesn't like me to give her oral, but I do give her great foreplay with talking dirty (she cums), letting her see me jacking myself (she cums), using my hands on her clit (she cums). So, that's FIVE ways I give my wife an orgasm - FOUR ways during foreplay and AND then by penetrating her (when she also cums!) - so I must be doing something right when I hear that at least half of women in long term relationships do not orgasm through penetrtive sex.

7. "Have a rock hard penis as big as it can be, will make a straighter path and will make that ejaculation muscle stronger and pump ten times or more. That's why I recommend v1agra. You will be bigger than ever when you shoot."

This is going to sound like a boast, but honestly I do NOT want my penis to get any bigger, it already is painful for my wife unless she is very well turned on prior to penetration. I have to give good foreplay to get her suffiently open so that it is pain free for her. I have no idea what is average size, and couldnt care less but am sure my size is very large as opposed to my wife being small. But as far as i am concerned I am totally blessed with an erection size to die for! It is always rock hard, never suffers premature ejaculation, aesthetically looks fantastic (according to wife) and is BIG to say the least in terms of both length and girth (9x6.5 inches) that my wife finds visually so exciting and is a reason, perhaps, why she orgasms on penetration when so many other women dont. Sometimes, she begs me to cum as it is getting painful for her during lengthy intercourse sessions. From this post, though, you'll see that I have suffered secretly without her knowing - with total lack of sensation in my cock, and no ability to shoot (but both are being resolved very quickly now!). This year, however, I have opened up to my wife aobut these problems - in a positive way and both of us are excited by the improvement to date.

8. v1agra. "I don't know if you are afraid of it or think you don't need it...but you simply gotta try it...it will make you feel like a 20 year old kid again."

I got to explain, I am anti-drug. v1agra sounds great as you describe, but my holistic approach is that I "believe" I can feed my body and regain my 20 something feelings - not totally, but 95% - and the fact that I am feeling some sensation in my cock for the first time in years this week is proof of that. I have, in the past, often engaged in intercourse but secretly known something to be wrong in that I wasn't feeling much sensation - it was as though my cock nerves were dead - i am talking about something that has been so for 10, 15 or more years - but now I am restoring my cock! You can tell from this post that a real transformation is taking place. I am just so bloody excited at the prospect - the holy grail for me. I knew ejaculate distance mattered more than most will admit - it is a good indicator of penile health and fitness etc and sexual energy levels overall. I have been drained but not really known the extent of it. I am so looking forward to unloading next week. My wife enjoys giving me hand jobs too - so she's in for a treat as well as me! It blew her mind when I shot 3-4 inches a few days ago - proof of the improvment from an oooz.

9. Those 40 year old valves don't work as good as they used to.

In my case, I dont think my valves have ever worked as well as they could. Sexual exhaustion after 25 years of daily ejacualtion has been a huge drain, and i suppose an addiction. The kegels, that I started just 10 days or so ago, felt nothing - but now my muscles are definitely beginning to emerge!


10."Kegals? I have no idea what they are supposed to feel like. But during orgasm, you have no control over them. But, every time you pee, stop it and start it several times..they should get stronger."

This to me, from wht you say, is going to be fantastic for me. I've never had muscle contractions during intercourse - let alone having not control over them! No, I lie, the time I lost my virginity there were no muscle controls! I am doing kegels every day, not just when peeing, but when driving and eating - 3 meals a day, but feed my cock with 3 x daily kegel sessions too! It feels so bloody sexy too!


11. C'mon back!

Hopefully, this thread is something we can both gain from. Try doing the increased kegels - I am building up from 3x5 per day to sometime in the new year being 3x100.

The blood flow to my genital region after 10 days or so has increased - darker red skin tone etc.

Ive gone from no nerve endings to something that "feels" very pleasant - and I hope to get much better sensation within 3-6 months.

The urge to jack off after 3 days abstinance is becoming overwhelming - but so far I've got away with giving a gental touch and nothing more.

My cock today has oozed with what I call pre-cum - that clear fluid stuff - even though I have not jacked off. Basically, just thinking of sex is now triggering pre-cum, which is not something I've been used to seeing happen!

The OTHER thing I have been doing is chilling my balls! This may sound perverse, but there is good Science behind it. We sit in warm houses and cars and offices. Mens balls get too hot, but need to be cool to perform. I fill the bidet with very cold water and give "them" a treat - 2-3 minutes of cooling! I have only done this the past 2 days - but am totally convinced. I intend to make it part of my daily regime - twicw a day,first thing in the morning, last at night. If you dont have a bidet, suppose you could use the shower head on cold at the end of a wash?

I've started taking zinc tablets too - at the side of the bed, if I "let some go" I "top up" again with a tablet for the future. Zinc is critical.

The kegels, the ball cooling, the diet, the zinc, the exercise, the positive attitude - all are coming together in a way I could not have dreamed of. The journey has taken me some three years (since I started diet changes) but the progress these past 10 days has been electric. I only wanted to shoot distance but already there are far more benefits - I am beginning to feel like a rampaging bull for the first time in years and just know that far more improvement is yet to come!



12. Thank me later!

No. I'll thank you now! Getting positive support from you has helped me greatly. Any other tips and advice from you are welcome. I'll bear in mind the v1agra, but for reasons explained will try to avoid it for now. My view is that most men are like me - worn out sexually - and that in part is due to lifestyle, food, stress levels, environment whatever and in my case other factors too. I think that my 40's will prove to be the time of best ever sex. In the past, it has been a sexual act to keep my wife satisfied, and I have secretly felt little with little nerve sensation along my shaft and very shallow orgasms and no ejacualate force. I have yet to have intercourse with all three of these failings corrected but am totally convinced by the python that is beginning to kick between my legs that I am starting to address all three issues. The journey is amazing. I hope this helps you too in some way. Once again, thanks and yes, I'll post again to update. I've posted at length, as this has helped me focus on the issues I need to address, of which the distance thing is a part but not all that matters.

CHEERS!