Re: distance varies with excitement level.

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I'm in turmoil, to say the least.
Have done a google on ep's.
Think, for sure, that it reveals an inner problem that I've never admitted to myself, let alone my wife.
I've concentrated all my life on pleasing my partner and never thought of my cllmax, or that its ok for it to be "for me"! (except for when I lost my virginity to an experienced friend, a trainee female nurse who just blew me away and I unloaded much to my shame within seconds of entering her!).

Result of thinking of my sexual partners feeling all my life? Just the opposite to what you may think - I get more satisfaction from hand jobs than penetration (far more complex than that, but keeping it simple on this board!)- not something I'm wanting to admit to - but the google search highlighted a condition that sounds spot on - even to the point of it saying such guys can have solid erections and penetrate for long periods but with either/or/and no emmission and/or no ejaculation force during intercourse.

the-penis.com had a write up on inability to cllmax during sex that sounds spot on. scarily so for all it implies.

Good news is, I can work at it to overcome the issues. But hey, this is going to be a long haul of 6 months or a lot longer!

Exercises are still my starting point, but other aspects too are going to be addressed. I need to do this, I realise, "for me" and that its ok to think about my own cllmax for the first time in my life - that concept is new to me. I've been too considerate and held back with the result I have these issues to now resolve.

Looking forward to 2005 with renewed confidence now that I am beginning to understand the complexities of my own mind and body.

As far as I am concerned, I'm going to approach the problem by first diagnosing it (job done!), understanding it, taking action and being patient.

I'm not setting any targets or going to put myself under undue pressure.

Chill out is the first stage.

I'm then going to continue to abstain to rebuild my energies,

Then I think I'll suggest to my partner that she bring me with hand jobs only - and during that time I think of my cllmax and fantasies - before, even when she has jacked me off, I've been thinking of how erotic I make it "for her" rather than for me. That was core to why, if I admit it, I wanted to shoot ejaculate a decent distance - more exciting for the partner to see someone shoot from a very large and thick erection than simply oooz!

Never thought the internet could be so useful - but for me, at least, it has identified a problem, let me understand "why" I am only having a shallow cllmax duuring penetration and not shooting etc. The concepts are scary, and my relationship will withstand this - basically, it is just another problem in life to either accept or overcome and I choose to hit such problems head on.

This post will make absolutely no sense to most people. But to me this is a revalation, and I celebrate closure of the first stage - understanding and recognising the problem.