my partner has always been telling me he'd prefer to be a woman next time...that he finds women in general way beyond men. (though not of course the bouncing types you mention on the men's channel) And the culture of men -- sadly lacking. (in general) He's not gay, and he's not a loser. He is however, celibate. As am I.
Oh God, I hope I don't have to add that I don't see anything inherently wrong in being gay...not at all. I just meant that celibacy is a choice. A commitment.
Sometimes, very rarely, and usually too late, I think it's better to be a number ;-)