"And, no, Spud doesn't agree with you. If you believe he does, you didn't read his post."
Spud is a she :)
You got the gist of my post correct Adieu, I don't think a lot of waffle-fluff about emotional balancing, etc etc, is at all helpful in an acute situatation, such as the OP's.
Practical information first, other stuff later, if asked.