You're NOT saying ANYTHING. That's the whole problem.

I'm asking you to tell me. And you're making excuses. It's not because I'm going to disagree with what you're going to say - so what? someone else might agree, or I might even see the light - it's because you don't HAVE anything to say.

Hence the roundabout statements about my not-sufficiently-enlightened state (btw, it's not my thread, and the OP is actually on YOUR side - enlighten her, would you?), hence the obfuscating vocabulary, hence the general and roundabout terms... You speak of balance? Cool. But balance requires a frame of reference, a plane, and a number of objects that are to be balanced. Care to list what we're balancing with what?

...or are we balancing emotions? In that case, grasshopper, you've got a lot to learn - from me, no less. Reread our little duel, and you'll see the entire spectrum of them - passion, determination, humour, compassion, protectiveness, etc. - while you sound like a Roddenberry Enlightened Alien Species (tm). Can't have equilibrium if we zero out all you call "negative" - that's not balance, that's trying to play on the seesaw with that older fat kid from next door. Tweet