This can be hard to hear when a person is spiraling in negativity and blaming others for their illness. There are outside influences but ultimately people make choices that lead them to health or dis ease.
People have a hard time accepting responsibility for themselves, even though their current state of poor health is primarily their own *fault*.
Having said that, most people do not know any better... we are being taught lies from birth these days that lead directly to illness... and... it is difficult to dodge things like dirty electricity, microwaves, etc... and do not get me started on metal bed frames and box springs.
One of the hardest things I had to do was to let go of those things I was taught, open my mind and explore the idea that what I had been taught, and learned in the process, was wrong.
The more one invests in time and\or money into thier, in large part, worthless, institutional *education*, the harder it is for them to let goof the information, even if it is conclusively proven false at some point... and the grieving process is experienced over, and over again with every lie exposed... some grieving processes being more difficult than others.
Adieu is in the same place many of us have long since come from... perhaps in time.
grz-