Re: the 3% rule of marital lust

I know a couple of married men that are not interested in having sex with their wives. One has low testostrun and has no desire to change it. He managed to father 4 children but prefers to live without sex and live a platonic relationship with his wife. The other one has a high stress job and is very closed off emotionally. (He was before the marriage and that should have been a clue) So, there can be other reasons for lack of sexual interest without putting all the blame on the woman. Lack of desire is an epedimic in this country, (on both sides). Our values are lopsided. We put so much importance on having things and all those things require time and energy to maintain and we lose sight of what is important....our relationships with our family. We're so on the go all the time. Buy, buying and more buying. It's a treadmill. We think that the things will make us and our kids happy; it doesn't. So, putting all the blame on the female tells more about your attidude towards women than being able to give positive input that will help solve the situation. We're outsiders looking at the surface. We don't know what is going on within each of these individuals. We bring childhood traumas into our marriages that can effect our desires also. I know I'm not giving any advise to help. Just insight to know that the blame game doesn't help. Finding our peace and happiness within ourselves does. Tweet