Re: Flip-flop OFF TOPIC

Alikat, you are SO insightful and dead-on when you say what you mean. Yeah, I've done quite a bit of healing and sharing. I DO feel an obligation to say what's what when it comes to domestic violence/abuse simply because I experienced denial in my Self, and afterwards when working with other abuse victims. Sometimes, my views don't come off as very nurturing and I won't apologize for that. The intense discomfort that I felt when I finally acknowledged my status as a victim was necessary - Truth isn't always warm and fuzzy, by a long shot. Sometimes, Truth in Love isn't soothing or what we wish to hear, but it is, nevertheless, Truth.

And, the idea that there's "male bashing" going on in this thread is an interpretation that I can't wrap my head around. Whether the victim is male, female, offspring, uncle, mother, father, or co-worker, too many people are MORE than willing to excuse the obvious dynamics of abuse with "just being stupid." My husband's co-worker was finally shot and killed by her "stupid" boyfriend who turned the gun on himself. People who knew that beautiful woman agreed in grief counseling that "something wasn't right," but they chose to avoid the subject for fear of "causing problems" for her. Others who knew what was going on felt that it wasn't "(their) business" to intervene and, so, another child is without a parent, a beautiful woman's face was blown off, and a very troubled man took his own life.

What is so perplexing is that, with all of the information technology available, all of the support groups available, and all of the resources available to ALL victims of domestic violence/abuse, the statistics are getting worse on a daily basis. Yepper, I feel compelled to say it like it is with NO offense intended. If you ask, then you have no business allowing your Self to become offended by an honest response.

Blessings to all!



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