Re: Well, we'll just have to see.

No I'm not hiding anything. I know there are many forms of abuse, and I know people who are experiencing them or have before. My boyfriend has never physically assulted me, trust me I wouldn't be here if he had. I have a strong insight into psychology of humans and an interest in helping and understanding. In the beginning I learned a lot about him and his uncle who is a psychiatrist told me not to let him get to me in the interest of a Science project. Those words hit home. Ever since then I don't put up with his %¤#&!§-. He almost lost me once and that's the day he really quit playing his games. Granted like the fight last week, he still will push my buttons when he gets defensive. When he got home from work the day that I posted this bulletin, I greeted him at the door with a list of things I needed to talk to him about. He confided that he does believe me and that he just gets stupid sometimes, and when he starts getting a reaction its already to late to say stop and that's why he tries to go to sleep ( I am one of the people that believe that you shouldn't go to bed angry and usually make things worse). But I have een reading that going to bed angry isn't as bad as we think as long as you talk about it the next day, sometimes emotions are flying to high and the defensive tactics make things worse. I don't know I am very stubborn which makes me a strong person, like most people who responded to my post.
I deeply appreciate everyones responses!!!! You don't know how much you have helped out. To SoulSurvior- I am sorry for everything you have gone through. My boyfriend would also console me about anything and everything. Unfortunatley I didn't get to touch on how good of a person he is only venting when I was extremely angry. I know you think my responses are "typical of an abuse victim" but they are typical of someone who is in love and gets in a fight when they know that even though its a big deal its not me getting talked to like a dog for extended periods of time. He doesn't tell me he's the best that I wouldn't be able to get any better. Your advice and insight is going to help a lot of people and give them the confidence and insight to wake up and see what is happening. With me, I feel the situation is different, because I see what is going on and will not tolerate it and will leave if it gets bad. Thank you soo much and keep helping those who don't have a voice for themselves.
To Molly_- I believe that you are correct. I think he is just being stupid and defensive. Thank you for being a voice of both sides.
And to all those others you are wonderful and hopefully if I need other adive you will be my support team again and one for all the others!!!!!!!
THANKS!!
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