Re: relationships

I agree with the sentiments of the other posters.
Also, from my personal experience, when a man begins
to play this game, which to me, also signifies his
lack of self esteem and perhaps a history of someone
playing the game of jealousy with him, I tell him,
I cannot make you comfortable, I can speak my truth
and if you choose not to hear it, that is your issue,
not mine. Only you can make yourself comfortable and
make the choice to believe me. It can provide for a
cathartic conversation but you also run the risk of
the person not being able to face the truth as reflected
by you and they will bolt. This should be seen as a
positive reaction as it is better to be left with
your own self esteem intact, rather than be beat down
by someone who is revisiting on you, the trauma they
have experienced. I think for those who have been
mistreated and their sense of trust undermined, that
change is difficult since they see their ability to
"play the game" as their fount of power, and are often
unwilling to relinquish it...

I wish you well~~

be happy, be well,
Zoe

-_-