Thanks for your contribution in defining a narcisstic.
You are fortunate that you can spot one a mile away.
From my experiences they are very very smooth. They know how to manipulate people, when family members become so aggravated by their behavior they will reach outside to find a sympathetic ear (and they do it by all their lies, and more lies!)Of course, they get the symapthy theywant, all this does is give them more validity for their actions. I have read that it is
hard to define a narcistist because they can be really good at hiding it.
Gawd, my life has been hell, I wish I had of had more understanding about all this before.