Narcissism exists in my life. I never knew until reading these posts. It made my jaw drop to finally have some insight as to why my sister acts the way she does.
From an early age she was a big suck, always getting her way and everyone, parents, grandparents, siblings always did what she wanted. If she wanted a toy all she did was take a temper tantrum and bam, there it was. If she didn't feel like doing chores, she could rest, I was older and could do her work. She was such a pretty thing, she would be the one to get the pretty dresses. When I was finally old enough to babysit and make my own money she would steal it so she could add to whatever she wanted. It sounds odd but we were close, there was times growing up we would have big spats but always came back together again. Its just been the last ten years where I can't tolerate it her actions anymore. We have had so much bad history in our family. My mother was an alcoholic, my father was murdered, my brother committed suicide. Ican only imagine some one reading this and thinking, oh yeah, right, how can one person have so many bad things happen to them, but it is all true.

It hasn't been until lately that I realize that my family has all enabled my sister to be who she is and we all hold a part of the blame. She was never happy, accused my mother that she was adopted, so of course more love was showered on her while the rest of us did without so she could feel loved.

When my dad was murdered, because I had a close relationship with my father the police would visit me for information, she felt left out and accused me of hogging the limelight. (Excuse me, some lime light!!, I would gladly of passed the responsiblity to her) She was upset because the police asked for my fingerprints as a process of elimination and she was upset because she wasn't asked. The reason they didn't was because she was never there.

It had gotton so bad that I had to start recording our phone calls because I was beginning to think I was going crazy. She would make all kinds of wild accussuations, really hurtful things that weren't true, I would cry trying to defend myself as she said one hateful thing after the other. THEN, the next day act as if nothing happend. When I would question her about the things she said, she always had an answer, and they were good too. You took that out of context, you have very low self-esteem, you twist things to hear what you want to hear. The recordings saved myself. I was beginning to think she was right.

She calls just to argue. She is a victim. Over and over I hear how she has suffered, how she is trying to save the family, blah, blah, blah.

I could write a book on the abuse of narcissisim, This only touches the surface. It has been an eye-opening experience for me and am so very grateful for the knowledge I have learnt from this site. It also feels very, very good to rant.

Posting this will probably come back to haunt me. In the past my sister has made postings of boards that I have visited, never to the board itself but always in private messages to me just so I know she is stalking me.

My only hope is that maybe she does read this and get some help.