I have felt for years that my dad really and truly believes his own reality, and after marrying and divorcing his double, I concluded that it was so. It was as if they lived in another dimension, another reality. When I say to you, see the purple ball, you may see a purple ball, but they see a purple oval, and that is reality for them. It cannot be round. Even though God made it round, they see an oval. It's just damned freaky. By the way, I can spot one a mile away now, by listening to their reality, and I know the only thing to do is...back away slowly then RUN LIKE HELL.
I am inclined to disagree that most narcissists are women, I find it to be prevalent in men, particularly abusive men. It takes a good deal of self centerdness to justify beating up women or children