Re: What would you do?

Oh yes definately better with drugs than without. But for me it included valium for 2 years and that really helped. Unfortunately, the doctors in thier wisdom (not) put me on percedan, fiurinol,demorol, and valuim all at the same time when I complained about pain during sex. They said I had pain because I hated my husband - which I didn't. It turned out to be a re-forming reboiling ovarian cyst. Bad ovaries caused alot of my problems, but it is very difficult to diagnose. This happened to me 24 years ago so maybe it is easier now.

If she does so much better on alcohol then maybe you should check her blood glucose levels. Alcohol turns to pure Sugar in the bloodstream. I had hypoglycemia which contibuted to the problem. I cured it with Essiac tea. Does she improve if she sips on fruit juices throughout the day? I did. You can buy a glucose meter at any pharmacy now for about $40.00.

There are many causes for these kinds of problems, however in my experience every woman I have met with them has been phsyically and/or sexually abused at early ages.
We can't remember the abuse. I only know because of scarring of the cervix and malformation of the uterus. I had to have c-sections because the cervix was severly scarred. Therapy can't help what you can't remember. Also, children of abuse are programmed not to tell. I tried it all for 12 years. I spent $12,000 on it with insurance, meaning just my co-pays were that much. Nothing worked except EFT and self-hypnosis, and those are free. I discovered EFT by accident searching for a cure for heel spurs. It cured them in 1 treatment. I then started to apply it to symptoms, such as night terrors. I went on 1 disturbing symptom at a time. The self-hypnosis helped with blocks when things wouldn't change. I researched and found out that abused people are "trapped in time" and live in the past as well as the present and future all at once. We relive it all the time subconsously. The abuse opens up our phsycic abilities. We have no control over them. It isn't a choice. We don't know that everyone else lives in linear time, until we are out of it. Higher IQ is a part of it also. The need to survive and the will to live expand our mental abilities at a young age. The only way I got out of messed up time was by recording self hynosis scripts in front of mirror with a tv going on a news channel and holding up a current news paper and repeating the date. A sample is "it is the year 2000 and I am 40 years old I live at -- " I would include the ages and names of my children, where I work etc. Then I would lay down and do a trance script and play the tape I had made. No one else could have made it for me becaused abused people barely trust ourselves, never anyone else. Please don't take that to mean you are on a futile course with trying to help her. But understand that you can only steer her in the correct directions. She has to want to go. It takes courage beyond what you can imangine. She will be fighting her own protective self the entire way. The way the subconsious sees it's job it to preserve life, not preserve quality of life. It only knows survival. She has survived this many years with this behavior, so it is safe to stay this way. Change is it's enemy, because it isn't safe. She doesn't live in fear every day, she lives in terror! You must understand that what you experience as fear is much more intense for her.

If she doesn't do anything to heal she will getter better when she goes through menopause. The cost of losing so many years is terrible. I know.

The best you can do for her now is proxy tap for her to "want to heal" "want to change" "it's safe to change" "it's ok to get better" "fear" "loss of identity" etc. This will directly reprogramm the subconsious and make her able to hear you.
It would be a very good idea for you to see a professional EFT therapist and enlist their aid in proxy tapping. Yes, it does work very well. The debate over the ethics of proxy tapping is intense. I ignore it. I don't care if it is ethical, I do it anyway. It isn't ethical by current standards for doctors to use herbs to heal cancer, but it works. Do what you have to in order to save your family, screw the debaters. If they want to play mental gymnastics with unsolvable issues, let them.
Don't get caught up in it.

Hope this helps,
Lessa

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