Right on, sister. Why can't everyone understand this? From experience; several years ago my wife cheated on me and treated me terribly. When everything came out in open and we were separating as long as she was being mean about it and saying what all she was going to take I was ready to fight to the end but my heart was to give her whatever she wanted and needed. I have seen this work throughout my lifetime. Couples who split up make it so much better if they will only treat each other with love, not necessarily the marriage type, but the Christian type. I have seen others who hold bitterness and hatred and they have nothing but misery the rest of their life.
Again, you said it so well. You truly have wisdom.