Hold up, let's describe this a better way.

I don't think that's what Peggy is saying. I'm speaking generally about everyone when I say this - not just you, Sara. Here goes:

A better way to describe it would be: the wheel spins in every situation for common elements take place that keep it spinning. It won't spin without one's participation. What is their participation, though? Is it a flavor of codependence? Domination? Submission? Manipulation? There are a myriad of flavors that can create that dynamic. I call it 'deconstruction.' When you enter into a phase of deconstruction (it sounds fluffier than depression or break-down) you look for those factors that you provided that continued to make that next situation possible.

Everything is an algebraic equation. How do you solve for 'x'? How is it that we are a magnet for toxic people, angry people, needy people, on and on and on. I have my own equation, as do we all. There is something in each of our energetic imprints based on decades of conditioning that people are drawn to like a magnet. Only when you solve for 'x' and figure out what it is that you keep doing that causes it to reoccur - will it stop. Of course, you have to actually desire to stop said behavior once you've figured out what it is - not simply want to stop it so that people would care more for you. That's still manipulation. You have to deconstruct for you, solve for your 'x' - not theirs. Therein lies the key to many of our puzzles as humans.

It's all a wheel of existence and it cannot spin if all factors aren't in place - it's illogical that the same situation will happen again if we've disengaged from the behavior that created it's existence in the first place.

EDIT: It will happen a few more times...it does to test your resolve, make sure you really wanted to stop the behavior - then the pattern will move on.