Pssst...hey #938--...

Just a little observation here.  You seem to want people in desperate situations to receive gentle, comforting and empathetic messages.   That's well and good, but I suggest you look over some of your own actions and see if you find any discrepancies between what you expect of others and what you do yourself.

The post you wrote to Molly below is full of very angry and  aggressive words directed at her person.   This is in direct contradiction to what you say is the way to answer posts.   I practically choked when I read it, as I have been seeing Molly answer posts here for many people for quite some time, and yet you, who seems to be a much more recent poster, come in solely to criticize what she is doing and how she is doing it, and very harshly at that.  So, what's wrong with this picture..??  Are you so sure you've been able to read her heart attitude correctly?

Frankly, your post was an unsolicited personal attack, a true non-sequitor, and as such it should not have been allowed to remain in a Support Forum!! I hope you realize that.

It would be far better if you used your own tenderness and compassion on original posters and refrained from attacking others in the very fashion that you are decrying.  Whether this forum exists for the purpose of giving out advice or simply to offer a shoulder to cry on, is not something that any of us have a right to define.  All we do is bring to the table the sum of our experiences, and the more of those experiences offered the better chances that someone coming in with a situation can derive a balanced answer for themselves.  Some people will receive best from a certain kind of response, and some from others.  Some will stay stuck no matter what or how anyone says anything, but those cases are beyond the scope of this or any forum. 

It's obvious that ultimately you mean well, but you are potentially causing the same if not more of the harm to others that you claim is "revolting".