In reading the thread below

It dawned on me that most of the posts, and the forum may be designed for this, are seemingly more about the answers given then the are about the guy who is asking for help.

Often times when people in emotional pain are asking for help they do not really want directions, and I am pretty sure they do not want to be made out to be "less than" or silly, or even stupid for their betrayal..

I think they just want to be heard, and I think they would like compassion. They already know that the situation is a disaster. They know they are in a place of stuckness. They do not want to be told to leave or kick the "other" out.

They look for a gentle ear, a loving heart, a sense care. As we all do. He knows it is over whether he wants it to be or not. He's already had it once, the second time is really hurting him, because he wants her.

He knows she has to go. He would like to feel some empathy and tenderness about his ragged feelings. When you feel ready, you will be ready. Unfortunately for me and you and all we humans we can know an intellectual truth, he does, and we can still grieve for the hopes and dreams that are dissolving.

This is the way of the heart, period. There is no hurrying nor feeling of grief that will snap him to it! There is a process and the process will be one of the emotions and the heart. When it is time it will feel better. Until then it is not meant to feel better.

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