"Just one thing - what do I say to him if he calls to see me now? I feel like I invited that by telling him it was okay as he left. I guess UNYIL I get myself into alignment he will want to see me. I suppose the sign that I AM aligned would be him staying away completely or surprising me with change???"
You focus on anything but him. Every time you focus on him you have sloppy vibrations. So, you want to focus on things where you can hold your vibration.
And with anything else, "It is my dominant intent to feel good" and let that whitewash everything that happens out of the blue.
If you are completely aligned, I see there are several possibilties:
He is the one, and he will know it
He will disappear from your sight
You will lose interest in him
You find another one, and you and he will know it
Many possibilties dear Monica!
You can never get it wrong. Each don't want only launches a new rocket of desire for more of what you do want :-)