Re: Teach our children well...

I get you on that. I make it a point - no, a spiritual duty - to live in sunch a way as to not be a detriment to another human - this only occured forme after living with and loving abusers all of my adult life. I got so battered in all areas by them, and I swear, now that I am free of them, that I will never, ever maliciously or insidiously treat ANYONE. I find that I have to work hard at this, do you know how hard it is NOT to road rage or retaliate with "tit for tat" tactics?? I go through this with my teemager- children and young adults are still dealing with the normal narcissistic part of growing seperate - I think sometimes narcissists are adults who never became "other-aware". Young babies live in a kind of "it's all about me" state, but then they (hopefully) grow to know things like if you pull the cats' tail, it hurts the cat, and it is not kind to hurt the cat, so I won't pull the cats' tail. These people just don't care if the cat gets hurt, just so they can pull the tail and feel good and powerful doing it. My teenager seems to think that she can say whatever to whoever, gets highly offended if you DARE to address any bad behavior she has or if you pick on her, and judges and pushes people away, then complains that no one accepts her. It's like she wants to pull the cats tail and still have the cat love her. ... I worry for her - in the meantime I try to behave appropriately with her, and guide. I often get hurt for my troubles, but want to break her cycle

she needs farkitol