damn if i do, damn if i dont

this situation really is a double edged sword.

when i take it slow, i have been considered a 'snob'- because i set healthy bourndries. also 'controlling', because i state where i stand so the other is CLEAR, then 'guilt' tripping because when i state how I FEEL they feel bad. this is always the pattern.

so, i allow for freedom of expression, spontaneity, and bang...you know the rest.

yes, i've so far learned from this whole post that discrimination would greatly help me. i'm sure some will call it avoidance or narcissism...but i guess they are entitled to their own opinions... :-)