it is not IMPOSSIBLE??? but it isn't easy either...

Ocean,

First,
I know this has been discussed on here before, but somethings need repeating. When a girl tells a guy "let's just be friends" it means two totally different things to both parties.
Guy thinks... okay so there is a chance.
Girl thinks... cool, he understands there is NO chance.

Secondly,

I am betting you are a pretty girl. Guys come on to you maybe not a lot, but more than the average girl. The fact that you are a tomboy, just doesn't slow em down, and the fact that you are athletic, just speeds em up.
Its a fact of our society, I wish I could offer some support here, but all I can say is been there done that. I'm not a GQ man, but women found me long before I even thought about looking for them.

Third and final...

The kind of intimacy that you find OKAY with a guy, is not what most men would consider a "friend". We guys take a long time before we talk about those things with our guy friends. With a girl however, it is different. (SEE rule number one)

It is VERY possible to be in a platonic relationship. It is also very rewarding for both parties. Most of my friends are women. I like it that way. Every so often one will stray and try to be more than a friend. With women it is easier to help them understand. I don't envy you. Men are more bull headed. Another problem of our society. Men are encouraged to be aggressive while women are taught the opposite.

YOU are the only one who can make a difference here though. If you are talking to men about more personal things... if you are spending time with them, dinner and a movie... and you are doing things that could be taken as a date... then it sounds to me like you are looking for a relationship. You mention that it has been a while since your last relationship, is it possible that you are using these guys friends to support your need for some level of intimacy? Its okay, we all do it... but you have to accept the consequences involved too.
Think about what you are doing, and what your motives are. If you go out with a guy, ALWAYS go dutch. I don't let my guy friend buy for me, and neither do they. If you do dinner and movie... go as a threesome or more... If you find that you are in fact using these men to help cover your own need of intimacy, then you need to stop, and start looking for a prospective boyfriend. Maybe you don't feel ready to date, but at least you will not be misleading anyone, whether it be intentional or not.

Good Luck.

-Thinker
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