You said:
"The point of view of someone who knows what it's like to be ground down by crazy-making verbal abuse until you snap and lash out physically?"
That's the same sh!t logic that boys use about not being able to control their manhood and pushing sex on a woman.
I was ground down...I just snapped...I'm a man...Men can't control their urges.
Wanna bet?!!!
Try telling me that any man would "snap and lash out physically" or not keep his fly zipped...if his own father was in the room? And if a boy would have such a father that would find this sort of behavior acceptable, how about we put her father in that room?! Or, perhaps your mother should be there?!!!
The "I can't control myself" line is junk. Lose it.