Re: How to help my husband with p 0 r n

First thing...ignore the reader who said to wait until the baby is born. You should act now!

I was exactly where you are two years ago. My husband is a p 0 r n addict. I knew what he was doing, but I would ignore it because he is so wonderful. Just like your husband, mine was a dream. We would sometimes talk about it, but I felt like "all men do this". Now let me tell you where you are statistically headed. When I was preganant with our second child my husband had an affair with a woman he worked with. (Now readers who have never been through this will say that this meant he was not wonderful and I should dump him. I know because this is what I would have said before I went through this.) My husband can't believe that he was capable of doing this. This has been the most horrible thing that we have ever experienced. My one regret is that I wish I would have paid attention to the warning signs. p 0 r n addiction (I know now) is a warning sign of an affair. I suggest you find a "good" counselor. My first one sucked! Go without him at first so that you can have a sensible plan. You must understand that his p 0 r n addiction has nothing to do with how attractive you are. If you are going to help him (and you) you have to stop personalizing this. It is about HIS addiction. He needs help. I am happy to say that my husband and I are on the downhill side of this battle, but we still struggle every day. Getting rid of a mistress is much harder than not watching p 0 r n. Affairs are addictions too. My husband is working on his p 0 r n addiction. We have zero tolerance! You can't watch it with him. That's like drinking with an alcoholic.

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