Re: How to help my husband with p 0 r n

Ok, Im young, and obviously don't have all the answers; thats why I came on here asking. I didnt want someone to write a one-liner "leave him" because that wouldnt be of any help to me. And Yes I dont want my feelings hurt, but I do want to help him and if that means I have to do something, I'd like to try to do it.

Ok my responses:
Paragraph 3: So I have to get some self confidence so that I can be more visual for him? There has to be a "root problem" that has a solution, cant there?
4: Because people can have orgasms with anyone, does that mean that it's not special even though its with me? Does this mean his isn't satisfied with me? How am I supposed to change this? In my opinion, we dont have sex enough. It's like once every three weeks. But he works in construction. Busting his butt in the cold and heat and I can see that he is worn out and tired when he gets home. But we do have a mutual loving relationship. We are both supportive and encouraging. I am honest and he is about everything except for the p 0 r n obviously.
5: I don't know if what I wrote came out the wrong way, but my point was my husband is wonderful. There are some men, that make their wives work when they would rather stay home with their kids. There are some men that work, and keep all the money and not let their wives go out or spend anything. There are some men that tell their wives they dont want more children and that's that. There are men and verbal and physically abuse their women. I've seen these men on tv and I've seen them from neighbors and other people I knew in the past. They exist. And my husband is not one of them. My husband makes $30,000 a year, and with a mortgage and car payment, regular bills and 2 children, that is not a lot of money. And I never have to ask to buy anything. If we don't have the money, I dont have to ask if I can charge it. I can go out if I want to, buy something if I want it, etc. There are some dead beat dads that are just too lazy to spend time with their kids. My husband wrestles with the boys and watches super hero movies with them, pushes them on the swings, and teaches them about the moon and rockets. I dont get what "Narcissist/Sociopath Forum" comment means.
6: Our oldest is 3 and we would never discuss this in front of him. My husband looks at this on the internet in secret, never in front of anyone, especially our 3 yr old. We watched movies together 5 years ago when we were dating, but we don't have them in the house anymore. What does this comment mean: "The preoccupation with sex as the core of your relationship is unfortunate and will influence your own children as to how to choose an appropriate partner." Is it wrong for me to like sex with my husband? He's gorgeous and he's the father of my children. I love him. He is a wonderful man and I am lucky to have him. I guess I'm thinking that he has an addiction that he needs help with and I'm trying to be supportive and help him. If it were alcohol or drugs, the same thing would be required of me. It hurts me more because it's personal; it's other naked women. In my mind, maybe not to others though, hes having a mental affair and I want him to be faithful to me. We do have a good relationship/marriage together. I just think it could be better and I'd like to aim for that goal.
What do you think? I wouldnt mind counseling but I dont even know what to say. And we really dont have any extra money right now with a new baby on the way....



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