Re: sexless relationship

DO NOT have a talk with her about taking your intimacy to a new level. Im just warning you dude, that will not help. She wants excitement and drama. All you have to do is just give it to her for a little bit. Let me back track a little bit here....

You dont have to act like an a$$hole if you dont want to. If that makes you uncomfortable then dont do it. How about this. Write down your feelings of exactly how you would tell your guy friends about it. You feel pissed off or like you are being lead on by her right? These things you should not censor with her because they will show that you have confidence. When you are censoring your true feelings with her in fear of scaring her off you are actually doing just that, scaring her off. You can't be to wimpy and you have to be strong and tell her exactly what you want and how you feel.

This is exactly what I would say to her "I really like you and I enjoy spending time with you and we always have fun together, but I need to tell you something that has been really bothering me. I obviously like you as more than a freind and my intentions of where this would lead might have been different than what you may have expected. It kinda pisses me off how you expect me to be for you there emotionally but when it comes to anything physical, you shy away. I am looking for somebody that respects me enough to not lead me on and at this point I am beggining to reconsider whether this is you or not. I think we should take a little break with this whole thing and just figure out what we both want for a while. I guess we will talk later ok?" and then after that convo is over you need to make sure you dont call her first.

SHE WILL call you if she has any feelings for you whatsoever. It might be the next day or the day after that but if she does not call you at all then just forget about her and go out and find somebody who wants what you are looking for too. Thats fair enough right? This is not too mean or hurtful, its just truthful and confident and it shows her that you have some balls.

You have to trust me on this one man. You have been doing one thing your whole life and it has not worked for you yet so guess what? You have to change what you are doing!!! Nobody is stupid for making a mistake, they are only stupid when they make the same mistake over and over again. Tweet