Might be time...

I'm going to throw out this assumption and you may correct me if I'm off base: you're ready for sex and she isn't. Are you looking to make this relationship a long-term committment? If you are, have you mentioned this to her?

Honestly, the answer, "soon," isn't quite fair if there is anything to this relationship, unless she is meeting her physical needs elsewhere or she has taken it upon herself to remain chaste until she's in the binding contract of marriage. Frankly, it sounds as if she's putting you off and the words that she's using to describe her reasons are thoroughly generic and are not explaining her position on this issue, at all. Sounds as if there's a communication snafu and you're going to have to be the one to nail down the issue and encourage her to openly discuss it with you.

I know that when I left my ex, I hated sex. Sounds hilarious, eh? But, in My World, sex meant torture, pain, humiliation, degradation, fear, and perversion. It may be that this woman has similar issues. Having been "hurt" could mean a multitude of things from being left at the alter to having been gang-raped.

I would make my wishes Crystal C. and go from there. But, I would also make it very clear that I'm interested in a safe, healthy physical relationship as well as maintaining an emotional bond and that I don't intend to wait forever. I would ask for a discussion (NOT answers like, "soon") about the issue so that I could understand her position in relation to mine, and either continue being patient or move on. I have no doubt that you'll make the best decision for your Self, regardless.

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