What's with this urgent need to "have somebody?" What ever happened to striving to be the best that one could be through education, dedication, and effort? I fell for the same, stupid belief that I couldn't possibly be "whole" unless I had a partner. That foolish, naive belief is one of the stigmas that I work very hard to help women (and, very few men) to erase: when we are emotionally sound and self-confident, we don't have to play games to land a partner like a trophy trout! A partner materializes for us when the Time Is Right. Entering into a committed relationship takes much, much more than being a "hottie" or a game-player that can beat our partners in the game of One-Upmanship.