Re: sexless relationship

Thanks to everyone for their input. It really did help. For a little more info about me, I am 40 years old and going on almost 15 years of involutary celibacy (pretty pathetic, huh?). I've never been very successful in relationships at all...somehow manage to meet someone every now and then but most women run from me the minute they detect interest on my part. On the rare occasions that I find one interested in me its been pretty much anything but sex (and I've often ended up finding out that they were going to other people for that). I can't count the number of times I've lost out to the "bad boy" types and to be honest, its crossed my mind on occasions to try to adapt those bad traits that seem to attract women to these guys. I never thought seriously about it though, its just not in my personality. While this woman seems so different than everyone else I've ever been with, her avoidance of sex is way to similar to all my other relationships (we've been dating for four months now). Its not just about "getting laid" (but come on, after about 15 years, I'm ready to explode!). I really do want to experience that kind of intimacy with someone I truly care about. I will just keep going and have faith that if it was meant to happen, it will. Maybe I will have a "talk" with her about how I want to take our intimacy to the next level. I'm not real good at expressing my feelings in this manner so I'd probably screw that up, but maybe when I'm feeling a little more confident I will. Tweet