Re:the saga

Precis, you remind me of that man who was driven to bash his head against a brick wall over and over until it was bloody and then one day he stopped for 24 hours and went around telling all his friends how great he felt.
I guess that you need to keep going down this path of thinking that a touchy feely day with her is 'progress' before you realise that these sorts of occasions are really only distractions from the underlying craziness .Only when your tolerance for pain is exceeded will you do something more adult that just spend the day talking to her, and looking for signs that she 'loves' you .You still come across as a lost child seeking 'Mommy's' love and approval.That puts you firmly under her control because she will continue to exploit your neediness as she has always done. Eventually you need to take a stand and set some rules for her to follow.Because you have never done that she has set all the rules to suit herself and her freeloading clan.
I do wish you a good life, but, as exhausting as these kinds of women are,you will HAVE TO find the energy to start directing traffic and to hell with the consequences... Jophil Tweet