Re: What about the guys that are trying?

Well, first of all, you need to stop beating yourself up for the mistakes in the marriage. From what you have written, she has missed the mark and needs to be looking into ways of changing herself.

To allow her family to run your lives is not good. To allow her family to move in with you is worse! That is incredible!!!!

You sound like a really decent guy and you are far from being a scumbag.

As you have stated, you love her, so why don't you let her read the post you have written and see how she reacts. You will have more answers to this post, so let her read all the answers, too.

If you two are going to make it, you will need to distance yourself from her family. The drinking on your part will take care of itself. It sounds like you already have that under control.

Marriage counseling is good, too.

Paulette G. Tweet