congratulations on your degree in theology and i am not trying to (as you put it) talk you ou t of your beliefs in jesus. many of your posts do not make sense to me because of the judgment and assumptions that you have the only answers on how to accept jesus.
i wouldnt try to talk anyone out of their beliefs unless they hurt themselves or others' with the beliefs. for me i have absolutely no authority or license to tell another person how to interpret jesus teachings or gods words. these have been interpreted by people for many purposes and making people feel fearful and shameful is not a part of what i believe god wants for me.