Re: Any men falsely accused of rape / sexual abuse?

I'm sorry that this happened.  Sadly, adults often view children as nothing more important than tools to control and/or manipulate.  When people separate/divorce, it should be a criminal offense to include innocent children in the business of their adult parents.  But, it isn't a crime, and the only way to approach this issue is to separate all emotions/feelings from the equation. 

Having typed that, this does not suggest that you and your husband don't have feelings and emotions about this (and any other) situation, but those feelings and emotions need to be expressed in a safe, healthy manner FAR away from any/all children involved. 

There is absolutely no way to predict what will happen, next, if anything.  It may be that the whole matter has been resolved and is over, for the time being.  Attempting to predict the "next move" will create undue anxiety.  Talk to one another about the situation(s), but keep the children literally OUT of all discussions.  They don't need to know about this kind of stuff, and they are not emotionally and physiologically able to process adult issues.  They aren't. 

Good luck to you, and you may wish to visit these sites that discuss "Gray Rock" and other methods to deal with these kinds of events:

www.180rue.com

www.familyarrested.com