Re: I need some advice, please.

Is divorce ok, you ask. The answer in your case is a resounding YES! I assume you're in the US? If so, don't waste anytime, call 1-800-799-7233---it's the number for The National Domestic Abuse Hotline. Please don't use the excuse that you don't have any relatives as a reason for staying in the marriage from hell. The people at the Hotline can help you get into a shelter for abused wives. There are such shelters all over the country and they don't publicize their addresses so that abusers can't find their victims.

Think of your children. It is wrong to keep them in such an environment. Not only is their self-esteem suffering but there is a good chance that your son will grow up to be an abuser and your daughter could well end up marrying an abuser (or become one herself).

Is it easy to get out and start over? Of course not but it is the right thing to do. Sometimes doing the right thing isn't the easiest thing but in your case it is necessary. If you go to a shelter, the people who work and volunteer there will help you start a new life.

Make that phone call NOW! I can understand your concerns about divorce and I do believe that whenever possible, couples can work on their differences and save their marriage. However, in your case, that's not possible. GET OUT OF THAT HORRIBLE MARRIAGE NOW! Do it not only for yourself but for your kids, too! Tweet