Re: thoughts on fidelity

I say no. Everybody does it. I don't. I don't think I could.
I have to actually be attracted to someone's personality to sleep with them and many guys say that it's all physicaly. Some guys even have the balls to ask their girlfriends if it would be okay if they had the opportunity to sleep with [insert hot celebrity name here] as though we would be proud of them or something.

Men and women, for the most part, view sex differently. I've always been conflicted about that. I mean...if I get cheated on just because that girl has a better body than me or a pretier face...then what does that mean? He finds something that is sexy and has sex with it...end of story...still comes home to the woman he loves, right? That's why I don't understand sex and relationships and cheating. Because I KNOW....that if I were to sleep with another man, that would mean that I am done with my current relationship and am already trying moving on.

I get more hurt at the thought of emotional cheating. If he chooses to enjoy someone else's company more than mine and confide in someone else...then I get REALLY flustered. And then once they have sex...that a new love right there.

I mean...if a guy has sex just to get off...does he really have to be conflicted in his relationship to have the audacity to do that? I mean sure, it meant nothing to him other than a quick lay BUT...did he stop to think about how his spouse would react? I mean...it might mean nothing to one partner, but if it means something to another, and they don't respect that, that's where the conflict comes in.



I used to think that I wouldn't mind it. That I would be in one of those relationships where my husband cheated on me and I just didn't care because I was concerned with my own life and the woman he'd go home to. But seriously...what kind of trauma would I have to go through between now and then to get to that stage of ambivalence? I'm too romantic and emotional to not be hurt by that. I'm over here in tears because he called another girl "love" and she called him "babe"
Might as well be cheating as far as I'm concerned. But he "did" nothing wrong...why? Because he didn't bang her. So he doesn't understand.

They use the excuse that suits them best.
They HAD sex: It didn't mean anything, just carnal needs.
They only Flirted: It's not like I f***ed her or anything.

Whatever.


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