Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!! 
#104954
16 y
7,351
Everyday has been a try to fast day. I do well in the morning, but then the intense need for food comes, my sweet cravings for chocolate, large sweet teas and sodas rain upon me :( Breads with melted cheeses, heavy red sauces, and too many bowls of Fruity Pebbles go down my throat. I do so well, but my cravings for food hit me!! Once I did so well that at 10pm something I couldn't sleep tosing and turnning out of hunger. I woke up that day and ruined it in tears with three cheese burgers a large fry, and a large orange soda easy on the ice. Food has complete control over my life, when am happy, bored, excited, tired, sad, ect. doesn't matter. My weight is in the obese range and the chart says am 40 something and at risk of a heart attack and many other things that could kill me.
Am tired of waking up fat, am tired of trying new diets, pills, and thinking thin. I want a change so bad and sick of thinking of food. Its ruining me dating wise....no guy is interested in dating the obese even the obese guys themselves. Only guys looking for a one nighter which is gross and wrong! Its hard to get a job people judge you based on weight someone with less skills but is slim gets the job and top pay. Even studies prove that people who are slim are taken more serious at work then us faties.
I tried loving myself and I really did...oddly loing myself so much I gained about 20 pounds doing so. My joints hurt, back hurts, tired of waking up looking at large rolls in the morning.....all over stupid cravings that are impossible to control!
I wanted to fast for weight loss, weight loss for health, for me, and a better life overall, I wanted to fast for spiriual reasons and curious about the astral, I wanted to fast for better skin, clear focus in my studies, ect.
To the point how do I control my cravings? So I can make it past day one?- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... jaymz
16 y
7,366
MoreThis is a reply to # 1,271,749first off food is not ruining your life, you are doing that. food doesnt run itself over to you and jump in your belly. take responsibility for it, thats your first step.
usually when the pain, becomes greater than the pleasure, people change. its up to you how bad you want to feel. you could decide today is the last day you want to feel like this, or you can decide its not, continue your bad habits,which will eventually kill you. its your life, its your decision, make the right one. its as simple as that. you sound like you know what you need to do, just do it. it may not be easy, but its better than dying.
good luck! you can do it
"there is do, or do not, there is no try" -Yoda- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... #104954
16 y
7,133
This is a reply to # 1,271,759What if like right as I type, family brings over a large Pizza Hut pizza? And I see them with a 2 litter Pepsi.....looks very cold. But the sight is pressuring. But yes my life..:(
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... severin
16 y
7,301
This is a reply to # 1,271,812Maybe if you explain to you family that you are trying to lose weight, they won't bring that kind of food around? Do you live alone? When I do my fasts I make sure there is NO food at all in the house and this is easier done when you live alone. That way when temptation comes, the food isn't easily accessible. It's not easy at first but you really need to take it just one day at a time. It also helped me to fill up on water. When you get that full feeling from drinking water, you're less likely to go for food. Sometimes I'd leave the house and go for a walk when a craving hit. Getting fresh air and exercise always helped and the cravings would usually pass in 10 minutes or so. It really is mind over matter. Not easy - but so worth it!
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... #104954
16 y
7,405
This is a reply to # 1,271,819Air sounds good....exercise helps with cravings?? I live with family and mom found out I was fasting because I had great interest in it. And the huge hint was me turning down cheese cake so stuck in the car with her she went to Mc Donalds, KFC, Boston Market and Nanas house for a cooked meal........and I saw how we eat out a lot! My family has poor eatting habits, but I never payed any mind because I was focus on going to the next place. But air and if I can move exercise!
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... severin
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,961"Air sounds good....exercise helps with cravings??"
Absoulutely, for me anyway. I think just the time you spend away from food, exercising and doing something good for your body, makes you think twice about putting that bad piece of whatever in your mouth. As Mouseclick mentioned, I've lost 94 Lbs through fasting. When fasting for weight loss, everyday takes a conscious effort to CHOOSE not to eat. It really is a choice and it's YOUR choice. Once I took responsibility for my actions and the situation I had gotten myself into by making bad food choices in the past, I was able to move forward and make postive choices. Once the weight starts coming off (and it comes off very quickly) it gives you more motivation to continue. The hard part for most people comes after the fast. You need to change the way you eat and make healthy food choices or you will gain the weight back. But I have no doubt you can do it if you set your mind to it. And of course, this forum is here to support you the whole way!- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... Raine13
16 y
7,222
MoreThis is a reply to # 1,272,275Severin makes some excellent points.
Personally, I have done 20 minutes of pilates daily during each fast. I find it helps me feel more energized and pilates movements make me more aware of my muscular and skeletal systems.
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... Raine13
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... severin
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... #104954
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... jaymz
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... fasting2goal
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... #104954
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... fasting2goal
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... severin
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... #104954
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... fasting2goal
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,749It sounds like you are having issues with compulsive over eating, which is something I have and still deal with today. I have went from 265 pounds to between 160-180 over the last year with intermittent fasting. Usually 10 days at a time, as it gets easier, so do the choices in foods we make, but it is never 100% fail proof, for sure!
I know you know this, but every single day you have to chose YOU over food. If you want to fast, you can! You have to just tell yourself over and over that you are making these changes for your health. Try to stay positive, and no matter what never give up!
When you are reaching for that soda, or those chips, yell at yourself if you have to! "NO, I will not eat that, it is NOT good for me, and I want better in my life!"
I had to get pretty harsh on myself, and not allow people to keep telling me it was ok that I messed up, we need tough love, and sometimes the toughest love we need comes from ourselves!
message me any time :)
Jackie- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... #104954
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,766But wow and good for you! No more 200's!! I dream of that day! Your right I need to stay positive really. And nice...self talk I will do that thanks. True people say its ok to mess up, but it adds up. Thanks so very much about the self talk idea. And I will message you soon.
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... #104954
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... Roooth
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,749Hey there hon, I totally know what you mean. The cravings chase me too and at times they seem incredibly difficult to control. What helped me a lot is doing my first fast as a juice fast. When you must have SOMETHING - you can go have juice. OD'ing on Juice is better than OD'ing on cheeseburgers, at least in the beginning. I didn't start with Water Fasts and it seemed hard when I did start. I started with The Master Cleanse and having a lot of Cayenne Pepper in the recipe helps a lot with cravings and hunger. This might be a segway until you feel ready to move toward juice only or water only. This may be able to help with the physical side of cravings (I absolutely believe that these substances are physically addictive).
Once you're past the physical side, down the road, something to keep in mind is the mental side of it. Coming off the cleanse, some newbies have trouble not binging. You can go to a juice fast for a while, then go back to food and rebuild for a while. But as long as you are leaning on the lemonade (what you drink in the Master Cleanse) or juice or gum or something, you're still in the mentality of consuming something. Eventually it has to feel okay to just not and to be thinking about work or something fun instead of food. It's a journey and I wish you the very very best success to gaining health and slenderness which will make you feel good about you and physically good.
~Ruth - Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... InCharge
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,749
Hate to sound like a broken record, but you need to clear some emotional issues.
http://www.emofree.com/articles.aspx?id=3 Here's a list of eating disorders that have been dealt with using EFT.
You might want to look for a certified practictioner in your area if you can afford it rather than trying to learn it, and doing it yourself. This would jump start the process, and at the same time they teach you the proper way to proceed on your own.
I use it all the time, and it works. You have everything to gain by trying it. Your brain runs the show, all you have to do is clear it of any emotional blockages, and program it to do what's right for your situation.
Good luck
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... Raine13
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,749I agree that you may want to start with juice fasting or green smoothies before trying to water fast. Many people on www.RawFoodTalk.com have had success in alleviating their food cravings by starting their mornings with a green smoothie.
The taste buds take up a very tiny amount of space -- why do you allow them to rule over your body?
Want something colorful and sweet? Steam some carrots: add a tablespoon of organic coconut oil and a packet of stevia.
Drink water. Iced, hot with lemon, whatever. Just stay hydrated.
Get signed up with a free account at www.FitDay.com and track your weight, food intake, emotions, etc. It's a great resource tool.
Based upon FitDay, the late night craving you had broke down this way:
- 3x Cheeseburger: 939 calories / 42g fat
- Large fries: 573 calories / 30g fat
- Orange soda: 238 calories
Further, these are pretty much empty calories that are useless to your body.
Next time you feel the need to binge, think about past experiences and plug in to FitDay what you ate, see from the screen what you are about to do and decide if you still want the food.
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... fasting2goal
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,839Another great site is
http://www.sparkpeople.com
its like fitday, also free, love it myself.
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Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... mouseclick
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,749Wow, within just over 2 hours you have had a wealth of responses offering some great advice! Looks like this forum is now running on all cylinders, after our recent "bar brawl"!
All I can add is this, it's a repost, I guess I will let a picture speak a thousand words.
Yes, I was similar to what you describe on November 14th last year, I was 44 inch waist, BMI 42, and feeling awful about myself. Knees and joints aching, low self esteem and so on.
I look similar to this now, and have done so for several months.
I am now following the example of others here who have even bettered this!!! Severin told us an amazing story here recently, so has fasting2goal, so I will be losing another 2 - 3 stone soon, to get rid of the nasty bits hiding in that black t-shirt. With water fasting you don't have to compromise, you can get yourself to your ideal weight and keep it there.
Hope to see your "after" pics in 2009!
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... vx
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,749Maybe, before you embark on fasting, you should start to change your eating and drinking habits.
For example, drinking only water, stop drinking pop or coffee. That in itself, you will probably have withdrawn symptoms, but it's nothing you can't control.
Then, start eating a fruit only meal, once every 3 days. For example, for lunch eat only apples. Eat as many apples as you like, but only eat apples.
Then incorporate more fruit meals, eating one fruit meal a day. After a while you should be ready to fast.
Overall though you need to start with your diet if you don't feel like you're in control enough to fast.
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... Loosie
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,877
I agree with vx. Make small changes to begin with. Give up pop as a first step. Add a fruit meal etc.
I can't fast because I am too toxic so I gave up coffee yesterday as a first step. I have a splitting headache as a result but once I am over this I can make my next change.
~ Loosie ~
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... Loosie
16 y
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- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... #48688
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,271,749Like Jaymz was getting at - ultimately its up to you.
Your creating your own universe - no one else is.
Your ultimately in charge of your body and what happens with it.
First step is to decide.
Decide what it is you want to create.
Not just hopeful wishes.
Decide something that is going to be.
Your the master - you decide.
Once you decide - see to it that it comes into being.
Your abilities are much greater than anyone has ever allowed your believe.
Ultimately its easy.
Decide, then see it through.
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... jennalee
16 y
7,131
This is a reply to # 1,271,749When I first attempted a Water Fast I kept telling myself throughout the first days that I could only have water. I couldn't have anything else. I have since found it is easier to control the desire to eat by telling myself that I can eat if I want to. I can eat anytime I want to eat but I CHOOSE not to eat. I remind myself it is my choice to fast. I also remind myself of the reasons that I am fasting to begin with. To cleanse my body of toxins, for better health, for spiritual reasons....and it works for me. Until I found and starting reading this forum daily I was not able to complete a fast. It helps me to read and feel the support that is given here. Thanks to everyone for their posts and sharing.
Sincerely,
Jennalee
- Re: Food is ruining my life!!!!!!!!!... jaymz
16 y
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