Re: Should I stay or should I go? HELP ME!!!!!!!

Here's the hierarchy of relationships:

1) Acquaintance. Anyone whose name you know; have been introduced to; work with; and so on. Generally a certain degree of mutual courtesy is present, but not necessary. There are no bonds of any consequence. Once separated, each quickly forgets the other.

2) Friend. A cordial relationship involving a small amount of give and take. They exchange phone calls and gifts, and accompany each other during various activities such as dining out, movies, sports, etc. Friends have many interests held in common and trust is of a moderate measure. Most young people mistakenly call their acquaintances, friends..

3) Comrade. A very strong bond involving complete trust and a willingness to sacrifice in extreme measure for the welfare of the other. Obviously, comrades usually share a plethora of interests and when they don't, then a narrow common interest is very high. These are people who often entrust their lives to one another. Sorry folks, many marriages don't qualify here.

4) Soul mates. A supreme level of human association. We know it exists, but also that it is extremely rare. Many sensitive men seek a woman in this category but their search, and desire, rarely comes to fruition since it is an uncommon woman who ever advances beyond category #2. Schopenhauer once remarked that women, like cats, are only friends of the house. Stop feeding a cat, and it will move on, since no loyalty is ever present no matter what day dreams the owners choose to delude themselves with.

Through this I think you'll notice the thread of trust. If you are not trustworthy, then the above is of little import since you'll never leave category #1, a station where each uses the other for some purpose. Often, this is what many sexual liaisons remain.

In one's interaction with others, some have a natural need to climb the scale, so to speak. Others, for whatever reason -- faulty character, fear, whatever -- live and die never knowing much more than a placid friendship.

Climbing the scale requires one to be an adventurous gambler for you know not what will become of the required "extra" one supplies. If you give more than your 50%, which any partnership should be, and find that reciprocity is absent, then it's quite possible that a desire for comradeship is not present in the other. That's when you cease and desist, for giving where it's not appreciated beyond a shallow smile and 'thank you', is a waste of your soul and very being.

Do not waste your time painting rotted lumber. Don't throw good money after bad. Never sow seeds on a concrete airstrip.

Often, we all have hopes that a relationship could be augmented since closer bonds are readily, and naturally, sought after by anyone worthy of being called human. Simply because you put in time and effort does not guarantee that anything of value will be achieved.

If a relationship is not going as you desired, then pull the plug before the inevitable future disaster follows. There is nothing -- sex, money, power -- which is worth the sacrificing of one iota of your soul and being for. And when you find someone worthy, well, you'll experience something well worth living with, though, and for.

You'll have to answer your own question for yourself.
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