Re: Relationship advice with Trust

Well, we can't judge whether or not a person is beyond redemption without knowing every aspect of their marital history. According to the initial concern, p 0 r n o g r a p h y and trust issues are what's causing problems in this relationship and we can't possibly know what issues are at the core of those symptoms. There was no mention of domestic violence or abuse, though I have personal issues when trust is broken, particularly on 4 occasions that are verifiable.

The reason to seek marital counseling is that the relationship is in jeopardy. Now, it's quite possible that the counselor/therapist will wish to see them together, separately, or only him with her joining after ten weeks (or, whatever). If the relationship is has any redeeming qualities left, then they must both work together as partners to salvage what they can and the counselor/therapist will structure the sessions in the best way to assist both parties involved.

If, however, the relationship is so far gone that nothing can be salvaged, counseling is still a good idea (individually, at least) so that both parties might learn better techniques at communication, trust enhancement, respect, boundaries, etc.

For now, I would have to say that this fellow has obliterated the bonds of trust and leaped across all boundaries of acceptable behavior. Just my opinion, though - others may feel differently. Tweet