Re: Relationship advice with Trust

Why do you all just want this woman to give up on her marriage? Yeah, the guy is behaving badly, but we don't know him. He may be salvagable.

So instead of seeking help she should just throw her hands up in the air and leave? I totally disagree.

I have lived with a man with clinical Depression for the whole 23 years I've been with him. I'm sure many woman would have given up on him, and it hasn't been easy. But there is a reason I've been with him, and had a child with him. I love him. I forgive his imperfections. And should I get to a place that it's too hard, then you bet I'd drag him to marriage counseling. And I've been close in the last 23 years.

You marry a person, and they piss you off, you don't just leave. You at least try to repair. You explore all opportunties until they are exhausted, and then you make some very painful and hard decisions. Divorce is not easy.

p 0 r no is not the end of the earth. My husband looks at it, and I know he does. He is not perverted, he is a man. And it has not changed our relationship, sexually or anything else. I am not jealous of this, nor am I puritanical. I really think we have turned the joy and interest of sex into something very perverted in this country.

That being said, I am however very against that CAM thing. That is not good. But again, not the end of the earth. He has found something that really turns him on, but unfortunately he is married, and that is wrong. If you ask another man if what he is doing is bad, many will think what he is doing is pretty cool. If you ask any woman, they will say to chop his balls off.

It's very much a matter of perception that has to do with upbringing, education, religious ideals..the whole nine yard.

So, don't be hasty. I think a marriage counselor will help you both sort all of this out.

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