>>>>>>>>>"What he said was careless, but he's only 18."<<<<<<<<<<
When would it be appropriate to address him? When he is 40? He is a man asking for guidance, he is not asking to be treated like a child.
>>>>>>>>>>"he does not understand is that he shouldn't say "don't Sugar coat it" because there are too many people in the world who will enthusiastically think of that as a welcome for a "free for all""<<<<<<<<<<<<
Dictionary: sugarcoat - to make (something difficult or distasteful) appear more pleasant or acceptable). Sugarcoating means the exact opposite of something that leads to a "free for all". He knew what he was requesting and he used the term properly.
>>>>>>>>>"What was the "good" of you calling his parents "losers"? "<<<<<<<<<
Go back and read that whole paragraph within it's context. I said those words to bring out a reaction in him that likely revealed more to himself than anything I could type in a post, and it likely sparked something within himself that could have changed his perspective. It sparked something in you didn't it? Again, read it in context.
>>>>>"he came here looking for compassion and understanding, not for the kind of "wisdom" he could get from just about everybody else in the world."<<<<<<<<<<
Wrong, he requested the opposite. In fact he stated that he was not getting many replies in his earlier thread and that the ones he did get were sugar-coated, which is why I spent so much time and effort trying to help him. He was looking for guidance and wisdom and opinions, not compassion and sympathy that he could get from a generic Hallmark card. And understanding? What good is it to him if you understand his plight?
>>>>>>>>>"If you consider my post in defense of him "policing", "<<<<<<<<<<
I don't think he needs you to defend him. He's 18, a man, old enough to die in war, and has even expressed his distain for sugar-coated replies that protect him from reality. Is it a coincidence that the poster is 18, making that step out into reality, into the real world?