Re: a not repenting soul...
I dont think in your case that the abortion was a bad thing. Everyone's situation is different. That unborn child would have lived a life of Hell with that guy as a father. -- and yes, you would have been unhealthily tied to him. You did what you felt was the best thing to do under your circumstances.
I also feel that many souls are reborn again if there is a miscarriage or abortion- so that your unborn child may have needed to go through this experience of living in the womb temporarily- then die and go back to God again. There may have been something his/her soul needed to learn through dieing in the abortion. The childs soul still lives, and may actually be already born on Earth again-- or else is learning more in Heaven.
I wouldnt doubt that this same child's soul was reborn again to you-- and your new baby with your new husband is this same aborted child! If not, you'll have two children that will always be yours- and the one who died understands now why you had to do what you did- and will be there to greet you with hugs when it is your time to leave this Earth.
Love
Boldyloxx