I think sex/love/lust can happen with the same person. Why is it that people don't talk about these things with their partners. Again, men need to learn to listen, and women need to learn to say what they feel. Sex between a marriage can be anything you want it to be. It could be the "dirtiest" (according to many people), but it's still within the marriage, and I think that's very important!!! You don't need to go out there to look for sex. You have it at home, but it won't be "hollywood sex", it will be what you two want it to be.