Thanks for the compliments...... I can see why it is so tempting for a woman to cheat....so maybe the only other way, other than a councelor to keep you guys together, is to spank the monkey and fantasize during those days when he doesn't want it. I know it doesn't completely fill the void, but it helps
make your private time enjoyable. Fill up the bathtub and enjoy. Why not? Unless, of course you have some hang ups about it.