A little contradictory topic but after reading I believe both of you would have to work on yourself. Since you are the one complaining I would like to read this. http://tcmnigeria.blogspot.com.ng/2017/09/my-episode-after-child-birth.html?m=1
You could also do things to invite him over but if you do not take care of what's on that post above, well you can only take a horse to the stream but you can't force the horse to drink water