wow, very well said kathryn. that question was just sitting there and i was wondering who was going to take a stab at it. i am glad you popped in here just now. you certainly gave some unique perspective on that, thanks.
the only thing i would like to add is that things change. you are young, your sister is young, you will be surprised, shocked even, at where things are in another 5 or 10 years. life has an interesting way of shaking up our fruitbaskets time and again, and just when we figure we have the tiger by the tail, bam! we are staring the tiger in the face. kathryn is right, its the heart that matters, never forget that.