Re: Gifted and ungifted persons, please help?

Hi 35490...I haven't checked curezone in quite a while...we're having problems with
an elderly parent and have just been swamped. But for some reason, I took the time
this morning and found your post.

Gifted people and high IQ's have always interested me because we have 3 kids...all
grown now. They all have above average IQ's...the middle son is above average...but
our oldest son is what they called Mega Genius...and our daughter...which is the
youngest..has a genius IQ. My husband and I have always wondered why our kids had
such high IQ's...since we are just average country people that love a simple life.
I even asked our family doctor one day...why that would be...and he said, "Well either you or your husband must have a genius IQ"....Well, it's not me...that's for
sure. :-) And we don't really CARE if we have a high IQ or not. We're happy...know
what the important things in life are...and THAT is what really matters.

Yesterday, we were driving home from my mother-in-laws...just to come home for a bit...and heard them talking about IQ's on the radio...so I came right in and did
a quick search on IQ's. I checked 2 websites...all I had time for...and learned on
those that we are 'born' with the IQ we have...and there is nothing we can do to
change it. I wanted to read more...but just didn't have the time. But it DID say
we are born with our IQ's...both websites said that.

Our kids DO all have very special personalities. They DO stand out in a crowd.
I'm sure you've heard about people that when they enter a room...you feel their
"presence". That's the way all our kids are...and we are so proud of their accomplishments and personalities. But having a high IQ or being "gifted". (The
gifted school program was formed in our county because of our son..decades ago)
But all of that doesn't mean a hill of beans. It's what's in the heart that matters.
Our kids all have outstanding voices...can draw just anything you name in a heartbeat...and you can just mention a subject and they can just tell you all about it.
I remember once when our oldest son was about 6 and I had read an article about
the green aura around oceans or something (see I can't even remember WHAT I read..) But we were at the supper table and he just bopped up and said..."OHHHHH
that's ..blah blah..so and so" My husband and I just dropped our mouths open and
said...How did you KNOW that..and he said.."I don't know...I just know it". Whatever he said...my husband said he was right. :-)
Our oldest son was tested in 5th grade and that's when we found out about his IQ.

Your sister may be in a rut because she has no one special in her life...or does she? If she's 20...and not in a serious relationship...that is a major thing to
most young women. Is she overweight? Has she always had this kind of personality
or attitude? Do you or any of her family 'run her down'...because she doesn't
have a lot of initiative? Sometimes...a person with a weak personality...can be
just beat right in to the pavement...by those around them...by other people's actions and words toward them.
Try 'lifting her up'...tell her you've noticed a 'spark' about her lately that you
haven't seen in a long time. If you'll do that several times...and sheepishly grin...like you think "she" is hiding something...that spark should begin to ignite...just from the words YOU say. Use 'reverse psychology'...do you know what
that is? That's when you 'plant a thought into someone else...just by what YOU
say or do'. Well...so to speak.

There ARE tests...even on the internet...to help you find your calling. I even have
2 or 3 books with tests in them for that purpose..I think one of the books is called
"Life Keys"...not sure and no time to look it up. Do a search on that....

Just build her up...and ask other family members to do the same. But in an honest,
natural way. It could be that if you are tooting your own horn too often in front
of her...she just feels inferior to you.

And increasing your income 4 or 5 times in the next 5 years may sound good to you...
but remember...it's only money...and you sure can't take it with you...take time
for real life and especially real true love.
People seem to always want to keep up with the "Jones"...but you can bet your boots
the JONES are trying to keep up with someone 'they' feel is above THEM.
Of our 3 kids...the 2 with the genius IQ's...are always working towards extreme
wealth...and very well may get there at the rate they're going...but it's our
middle son with the just above average IQ and the family that lives on the little
farm and is a deacon in his little baptist church that is the happy one. The other
two's contentment can't hold a candle to his...and he just has an average job with
average income. So money and stuff does NOT make the man. It's what's inside
that makes us what we really are.

I've been way too long as usual...but let me close with a couple of my favorite
quotes. kathryn

"There is more to life than having everything!"

"Find at least one reason each day to go...Ahhhhhhhhhh!" Tweet