Perhaps you don't understand what poetic justice is (what goes around, comes around...MIRROR justice). It means that you unjustly accuse others defensively (react/retaliate because you THINK you are being accused). This is UNJUST. I would be defensive too, if I was unjust.
If you refrain from unjustly accusing people by drawing conclusions, or imagining yourself to be a hero and rescue others from the evil "been there done that", there will be no reason to feel as though you "insulted" my username (I never felt that you did).
With that 'power of suggestion' that she has been "inflicted" with "pain", she now is not just feeling a reputation of scorn (because of other accusations against me), but she will be feeling all the negativity that you are dishing out ("suggesting"). It is important to be careful with WORDS (they have feelings attached).