I have reccomended both 37912 and 49156's posts, because though they appeared to conflict each other, Plasticat can benefit from BOTH posts.
37912's post showed how someone suffering from a disfigurment not only needs tough love to deal with their problem, they may also need compassion and Empathy.
49156 post was also an excellent post in helping plasticcat to see his/her situation from a different viewpoint. This too leads to healing.
Truth and compassion should never be seperated from the other.