Yes, what you say is true, but when there are four children involved one must overcome the pain and move on with life. I have chosen to forgive my husband for the sake of my children. I feel it is for the best. My husband is a good man who got caught up in life and made bad choices but people can change. I truly believe this to be true and that's why I can move forward. I did know when he cheated, at least I felt things were not right but my mother talked me out of my thoughts. I wish that I would have followed my heart then perhaps things would have been different. At the time I was simply too caught up in life to really take notice of what was going on between my husband and I. I won't let that happen again.