Re: i almost became a mistress... what do i do?

I can tell you from experience...I found out that my husband cheated and it hurts more than words can say. No one has a right to break up a family. It has been more than a year and I still can't get over it.

Does this man have children? If so think of how much pain you will cause to them by stealing their dad's heart and soul. If you like him then be the bigger person and remind him of how dangerous an affair can be. Remind him that he could lose his family should his wife catch on; remind him of the fact that he is a role model for his own children; remind him of how it feels to wear his wife's shoes; remind his that marriage is a legal contract that binds him to his wife and no OTHER.

Now that you know he is married you should do the right thing. Personally, I wish you would tell his wife, so that they can seek help for their marriage, be it a resolution or an ending. Otherwise, this guy will continue to destroy his family.

Unfortunately, I didn't find out about my husband cheating until 6 years later. I can't begin to explain how hard it is to understand that he has been unhappy for so long and I had no idea. If only I had found out sooner maybe things wouldn't have been so hard to repair. Now my husband will do anything to salvage our relationship. He so desperately wishes that he never had the affairs, he has such regreat and dread for what he has done. He has become depressed and sad. Now he realizes what's important and how delicate and fragile life is and wishes that there was someone back then who could have talked some sense into him.

Please think hard about the choices you make inregard to this man and his marriage.